Is it possible God has told a couple to get married? Look, I’m not going to put God in a box. Whether we marry, and who we marry, are spoken of in Scripture as part of God’s “permissive will,” something He allows us to choose. There is, quite frankly, nothing in Scripture that ever tells us it is our sworn duty to marry one particular person. 39) If the Bible explicitly says, ‘it’s your call whether or not to get married’ (a sentiment Jesus echoes when he says some “choose” to become eunuchs-celibate-in Matthew 19:12, with emphasis on the word “choose”) and it’s entirely your choice as to who to marry, why should your subjective feelings and reasoning override living by the truth of Scripture? In 1 Corinthians 7, the apostle Paul tells women (widows, in particular) to seriously consider singleness, but assures them the choice of whether to get married is up to them, and then specifically says women can marry “whomever they wish” as long as their potential husband is ‘in the Lord.’ (v. Proverbs 31 urges young men to be guided by a woman’s faith and character in making their choice-there is no mention of second guessing some divine destiny. My response is simple: How can you say the opposite? There is nothing in Scripture that suggests there is just one person we’re ‘supposed’ to marry. To these and many others who said, “God told me to marry him/her,” I want to cry out, “No, He didn’t.”
In another conversation, another woman, married not just years, but decades, to a man who proved to be pathological, slipped in the same sigh and words, “But God told me to marry him.” You could have served the bitterness in her voice to a thousand people. And what frustrates me so much is that God confirmed that I was supposed to marry him, ten times over.”
“We’ve only been married for three years but it has been the worst three years of my life.
“It’s been miserable, Gary,” the woman confessed.
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